Advice #?

Amanda S. said...
I'm in eighth grade. I ride the bus with these two seventh grade girls. One of them is really awesome, and we're okay friends. But the other one is always putting me down, like all the sixth grade boys do. I put on make-up...a lot of make-up...do you think that's it? She's always being mean to me. How can I make her stop? Is she jealous that I like her friend better than her, or does she think I look weird? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

Amanda S:
Try talking with this seventh grader. Tell her she's making you feel bad, and to please stop. I know this usually doesn't work, but it's worth a try. If it doesn't, ask the other seventh grader to have a talk with the girl. If she's jealous that you like her friend better, try to get to know and like the girl better. Talk with her a bit more so she feels included. I know first-hand how annoying it is to be ignored--especially in your time of need--so let her join in on your conversations. Also, if you think you look nice in make-up, that's your choice. Don't let this girl rule you if you're just being yourself.
Hope this helps!!!
luv,
the advicecolumnist

Advice #?

Kimmy says...
My parents are always fighting with my younger brother. I try not to get on their nerves because their under a lot of stress with the stock market and stuff. But kids at school keep teasing me and asking when the divorce is. When I tell them to stop, they call me a baby and a bunch of mean names and laugh. What should I do?

The Advice Columnist says...
Well Kimmy, it seems like you need to have a talk with your parents about how this is affecting you. If you feel uncomfortable talking about this with your parents, talking to the school counselors is always a good choice. They can help you figure out what to do in your situation. Also, try to stay away from the kids that tease you. Try to avoid them, but if you can't get away, take their teasing calmly and cooly. Soon they'll figure out that they can't get to you and hopefully stop.
Hope we could help!

~The Advice Columnist

Muffin's Advice

Starr said...

I really like this one guy, but he likes another girl, and everyone knows it. Now my best friend is spreading rumors about me wanting to break them up, and that's not true. Has this ever happened to you? Please help...!

Starr:

Analyze your relationship with your best friend. Is she nice to you? Do you enjoy being around her? Talk to her, or at least text her (because sometimes that's easier) telling her that what she's saying isn't true. If you really like this one guy, you shouldn't care that he's going out with someone else, and you should respect him for making his choice. DO tell him how you feel about him. DON'T try to break the pair up. If he likes you back, you'll know.

Muffin's Advice (finished by another columnist)

Anne said...
Hey, advicecolumnist? I have a bit of a problem. Could you help me? My parents are getting a divorce, and now some of my friends are avoiding me. I don't know why, and whenever I try to talk to one of them, they all giggle and run away before I can ask why. I tried chasing them once, but they're faster than me. Is there something wrong with me, or do they not want to be caught up in my parents' divorce?



Anne:

There's nothing wrong with you. Your friends might not feel like hanging around with you anymore because they don't know what to say to make your situation any different. They probably have never been through a divorce so they don't know how to react. See if you school or community has a divorce group, if they do it might be a nice way to meet people that are sharing your same feelings. If they dont, try going to your counselor and telling them about the problem. They might know kids who want to help you or hang out wiht you! GOOD LUCK!

love,
The Advice Columnist

Online

Hey, Coffeesnobs:
The Coffee Snobs blog is back online. This is Muffin, and I fixed it. Yes, I decided to keep posting. Just don't put any pictures on the sides.

~Muffin.

Advice #7

Colette said...
Hi. I have a friend who...when I think of it...isn't really a good friend. She's always putting me down, and whenever I go out shopping and I'm really proud of what I wear, she critisizes it. What should I do to let her know that I don't want to be her friend?

If your friend is that bad, you should try telling her to her face. It's probably best to do this when you guys are alone outside of school. If there are other people around it might be harder to actually talk. If you don't think you'll be able to tell her to her face, try texting or e-mailing her. Be careful with that though. It's easy to read it the wrong way. I hope this works out for you!

Love,
The Advice Columnist