Friday, November 28, 2008

NOTICE

No bad words in comments or advice requests, please. They will not be published.

~The Coffee Snobs.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Jessie P. of Maryland said...
My name is Jessie. I just recently got a computer from a garage sale, and even though it was broken, I got it working again with an extra CPU chip. Anyway, when I got my computer, I got it because all my friends had one and they kept pressuring me and saying they would hate me until I got one. Now they all have laptops, and they're ignoring me because I have an old hand-me-down computer when they have fancy Dell Notebooks. What should I do? Help!


Jessie: If these people are who you call your friends, you need to seriously get a grip. If ANYONE, and that goes for everybody, makes fun of you, is mean to you, or ignores you just because you don't have what they have, we have serious problems. Do you like your computer? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about these girls that are making your life miserable! They can think what they want, but don't fall into what I like to call the "Clique Trap"! Cliques are like herds of cows. Who wants to be an animals that moo's and barfs up grass four times before they eat it!? My advice: find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and what you have. Be careful, and choose your friends wisely. Hope this helps!!! :)

~The Advice Columnist

Advice to Lenny of NC

Lenny of North Carolina said...
To the Advice Columnist: I want to start a blog, but I don't know how to do it, or what I should put on it. Any suggestions?



Hey! That's, like, the easiest question to answer ever!!! But here it goes:
To make a blog, Blogspot is your place. Go to http://www.blogger.com/ for info on how to do this. Just hit the "Create a Blog" button. What to put on your blog...well. That's easy!

1. Your interests. You like Mac 'n' Cheese? Say so on your blog! Like to read books? Say so on your blog! Whatever you like to do is important!!!
2. What you like to do. Like to skateboard in the park? Go ahead and post about it; where you go, what tricks you do, etc. The readers love it!
3. Arts and crafts or activities. The readers of your blog will LOVE holiday-related activites (as long as it's around that holiday!). Christmastime? Find some cookie recipes or decoration-making crafts. Halloween? Try some pranks/tricks and decorations for your front yard!
4. Anything you want. What the hey, just post about you! Your blog is where you, the blogger, share all your ideas of fun and having a good time!
Hope these help, Lenny, and make sure you tell everyone you know about your blog! A hint from me, the more people you tell, the more people are reading!!!!! ;)

~The Advice Columnist

Advice to Lauren!

Lauren! said...
i have a cousin who's always acting like a dork. she's older than me, but she acts like she's 5! how do i get her inot reality? help!!

Sounds like you really don't like your cousin. Try talking to her about how you feel. Tell her that you wish she would act more her age, and see if it helps at all. If it doesn't, talk to her parents about it. Or another cousin. Honesty, in this situation, is the way to go. Hope this helps!!!

~The Advice Columnist

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Advice #?

Anonymous said...
Sorry, but this is really long. Okay. I have this one freind who's the best friend ever. She was my best friend until I started Middle School, and then she started hanging out with other people that I don't like. My other friend isn't as great as the first friend was, but she's almost always loyal, even when she's with her other friends. My first friend is always using me as her second choice for an invitee to a party, to talk to for homework help, etc. How can I stay friends with my first friend, retain my friendship with my other friend, and not feel like I'm being used or excluded? PLEASE HELP!!!



Wow, that is long! But first of all, analyze your friendship with Friend I. A good friend is always loyal and accepts the fact that you're her friend along with her other friends. Also, think about what you're saying when you talk to her. If she were analyzing your friendship, would she think you were a good friend to her? If the answer to this is no, then try talking to your friend in a nicer way. If the answer is yes, then maybe you should either stick to Friend II or find some new friends. If your friends are really, truly, irrevocably your friends, then you shouldn't have to bend and stretch to make ends meet. Just be yourself, and everything will be fine. Hope this helps!!!

~The Advice Columnist

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Advice #?

Natalie said...
My name is Natalie, and I'm in sixth grade. There's this one boy at my bus stop that is really mean to me. He says dirty stuff and is always throwing bad hand signals at me. He's in eighth grade, and he scares me. I told my parents, and they phoned the principal, but the boy keeps bugging me. I try to ignore him, but can't. I don't think I can handle this much longer. What should I do?


Ignoring people who are really mean barely ever works. Try talking to him, or getting one of his friends to talk to him. Telling your busdriver might be easier, though. If he still teases you on the bus the bus drive might be able to stop him. If that doesn't work go to the principal or counselor yourself. Asking other people who saw him bugging you to come with you, theyre more likely to believe you. If everything else fails, see if your parents could drive you to school for a couple days. If he can't tease you for a while, he may give up. I hope this advice helps!

Luv,
The advice columnist

Advice #?

Anita Polly said...
My mom just died. I'm really depressed, and none of my friends hang out with me anymore...probably because they don't want me blubbering about my parent's death. What should I do?

You sound really sad about that, and we understand why. Have you tried talking to your friends about it? Maybe theyre just afraid of saying the wrong thing. If that doesn't work and you still need someone to talk to, go to the school counselor. You could also try talking to your dad or another relative they youre close to. Just talking usually helps a lot. Also: If your friends wont even give you a chance theyre probably not very good friends. I hope this advice helps, and I'm sorry about your mom.

Luv,
The advice columnist