Lenny said...
I'm a really good student, but lately my grades have been slipping. I'm working hard on getting them back up, but I just don't get math! Whenever I get a test back, I hide it from my parents because I don't want them to be disappointed, and I keep getting detentions for not bringing it back signed. What should I do?
Amanda Panda said...
I really like Webkinz. You guys know what that is, right? Well, I love it. I have a bird and an orca and stuff, and my friends used to come over all the time to help me take care of them. But now they say that Webkinz are for babies, and they chase me all over the playground. What should I say to them?
Stuck In The Middle said...
I have these two friends. Neither of them likes the other, but they both like me. I keep getting caught in their fights, and they ask me to choose with one of them I like better as a friend. They fight over me and whose best friend I am. I really need help!
Well, Stuck In The Middle really put the phrase to good use. These guys really need help, people! Let's give them some more good advice from our readers!
~The Advice Columnist (Muffin...there's no use hiding it.*)
*But I haven't ALWAYS been. Just now that everybody's stopped posting I've kinda been on my own.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Advice Request
Okay, people. I think that since I'm tired of coming up with advice ALL THE TIME, you guys should try. So, I've got a few suggestions from anonymous people (AKA, people I WILL NOT name, I made up these names) and they're listed below. However, it's your guys's job to read them, rate them, and give these people advice. This way they'll have some variety.
Michael says...
My friends used to be nice to me. Now they're against me. What do I do?
Tania says...
My mom and dad think I'm a loser because I get bad grades. I feel really bad, and I cry myself to sleep. What should I say to them?
Eliza says...
I want to start up a blog. How do I do this? Do you recommend Blogger?
Start that advice, people! These guys really need it!
~Muffin.
Michael says...
My friends used to be nice to me. Now they're against me. What do I do?
Tania says...
My mom and dad think I'm a loser because I get bad grades. I feel really bad, and I cry myself to sleep. What should I say to them?
Eliza says...
I want to start up a blog. How do I do this? Do you recommend Blogger?
Start that advice, people! These guys really need it!
~Muffin.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Advice to Cara
Cara said...
I'm eleven years old and I have blond hair and turquiose eyes. Do you have any hair, makeup, and fashion tips that are reasonable for my age?
At the age of eleven, you don't need any tips. But since you posted, you must really want it, so here it goes:
For your hair, put it up in a ponytail. Braid it. Straighten it. Curl it. It doesn't really matter, as long as you like it! Blond hair looks good in a ponytail(s). You don't need make-up: I'm totally against it. Don't even get me started on that. As for what to wear...whatever's comfortable! If you think you look good in old sweats and a holey jersey, wear that! If you think skinny jeans and a t-shirt mean fashion, wear those! As long as you're comfortable, you're fashionable.
~The Advice Columnist
I'm eleven years old and I have blond hair and turquiose eyes. Do you have any hair, makeup, and fashion tips that are reasonable for my age?
At the age of eleven, you don't need any tips. But since you posted, you must really want it, so here it goes:
For your hair, put it up in a ponytail. Braid it. Straighten it. Curl it. It doesn't really matter, as long as you like it! Blond hair looks good in a ponytail(s). You don't need make-up: I'm totally against it. Don't even get me started on that. As for what to wear...whatever's comfortable! If you think you look good in old sweats and a holey jersey, wear that! If you think skinny jeans and a t-shirt mean fashion, wear those! As long as you're comfortable, you're fashionable.
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Courtney
Courtney said...
I'm seven years old and my mom won't let me go to the mall by myself and buy pretty skirts. She won't let me wear makeup either. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to say this, because I hate to hear this myself and I'm sure you've heard it from your mom, but you're too young to go to the mall by yourself. Ask yourself why you want to go to the mall. To look cool in front of your friends? Because your friends brag (in which case they aren't very good friends)? Going to the store with your mother isn't lame, and don't worry. She'll let you go by yourself eventually. Even I still go with my mom. And about the make-up...I STILL don't wear any. You don't need make-up to look pretty. You'll get make-up around your beginning teen years, but until then, now's your time to shine...without the help of glitter, sparkles, and eyeshadow. Show your mom that you're a responsible person. Wear what you have. Give the clothes you don't wear anymore away to charity. Keep your room clean. Don't yell or talk back rudely to your mom when you go to the store and you see something you don't want and she does. Over time, you'll both learn to respect each other. Besides, fighting doesn't get you anywhere, and your mom knows what's best for you. Have fun shopping, Courtney!
~The Advice Columnist
I'm seven years old and my mom won't let me go to the mall by myself and buy pretty skirts. She won't let me wear makeup either. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to say this, because I hate to hear this myself and I'm sure you've heard it from your mom, but you're too young to go to the mall by yourself. Ask yourself why you want to go to the mall. To look cool in front of your friends? Because your friends brag (in which case they aren't very good friends)? Going to the store with your mother isn't lame, and don't worry. She'll let you go by yourself eventually. Even I still go with my mom. And about the make-up...I STILL don't wear any. You don't need make-up to look pretty. You'll get make-up around your beginning teen years, but until then, now's your time to shine...without the help of glitter, sparkles, and eyeshadow. Show your mom that you're a responsible person. Wear what you have. Give the clothes you don't wear anymore away to charity. Keep your room clean. Don't yell or talk back rudely to your mom when you go to the store and you see something you don't want and she does. Over time, you'll both learn to respect each other. Besides, fighting doesn't get you anywhere, and your mom knows what's best for you. Have fun shopping, Courtney!
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Veronica R.
Veronica R said...
There are these girls who were my best friends, but last year they got me into trouble. Then they stopped talking to me and playing with me. Now they think that I'm their best friend. I don't want them to be my friends. They keep following me. What should I do?
Let these girls know that you got into trouble because of them. Tell them how you feel about the situation. If they really want to be your friends, they'll give a good excuse. Ask yourself these questions: Have they changed? Do they really want to be friends with me? Am I hurting their feelings even though they haven't done anything? All friends go through rough times...I would know. However, if they don't respect you or are just trying to bug you like some ex-best-friends tend to do, confront them calmly about the situation. Tell them to get off your back (but a little more nicely) and to leave you alone. They had their chance to shine as your BFFLs, but they blew it. Hang around people you like and respect, and eventually they'll quit bugging you. Hope this helps!
~The Advice Columnist
There are these girls who were my best friends, but last year they got me into trouble. Then they stopped talking to me and playing with me. Now they think that I'm their best friend. I don't want them to be my friends. They keep following me. What should I do?
Let these girls know that you got into trouble because of them. Tell them how you feel about the situation. If they really want to be your friends, they'll give a good excuse. Ask yourself these questions: Have they changed? Do they really want to be friends with me? Am I hurting their feelings even though they haven't done anything? All friends go through rough times...I would know. However, if they don't respect you or are just trying to bug you like some ex-best-friends tend to do, confront them calmly about the situation. Tell them to get off your back (but a little more nicely) and to leave you alone. They had their chance to shine as your BFFLs, but they blew it. Hang around people you like and respect, and eventually they'll quit bugging you. Hope this helps!
~The Advice Columnist
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Advice to Lovesick
Lovesick said...
There's a guy in my class named Seth. I totally have a crush on him. But he is so mean to me. He pushes me, and I start to cry! I don't mind, because my friends are there to help me. What should I do?
I know you feel like it's okay that this boy pushes you because you have good friends around to help you, but it's not acceptable for him to push you. It's mean and disrespectful of him to physically hurt you. If a boy makes you cry, that's a sign that he'll make a bad boyfriend. Take my advice and find a new boy to have a crush on. You need a boyfriend who'll give you a warm hug instead of a mean push!
~The Advice Columnist.
There's a guy in my class named Seth. I totally have a crush on him. But he is so mean to me. He pushes me, and I start to cry! I don't mind, because my friends are there to help me. What should I do?
I know you feel like it's okay that this boy pushes you because you have good friends around to help you, but it's not acceptable for him to push you. It's mean and disrespectful of him to physically hurt you. If a boy makes you cry, that's a sign that he'll make a bad boyfriend. Take my advice and find a new boy to have a crush on. You need a boyfriend who'll give you a warm hug instead of a mean push!
~The Advice Columnist.
Advice to Jenny
Jenny said...
My exboyfriend dumped me because he thought I was cheating on him. Now he's saying he still likes me. What if he asks me out again?
If you were cheating on your boyfriend, then he did have a good reason to break up with you. But if you weren't cheating on him, then he shouldn't have broken yp with you without getting his facts straight. IT's up to you to decide whether you want to give him another chance or not. If you miss him and would like to date him again, then give it a try. But if you think he might dump you again because of a stupid reason, then maybe you should let this one go on.
~The Advice Columnist
My exboyfriend dumped me because he thought I was cheating on him. Now he's saying he still likes me. What if he asks me out again?
If you were cheating on your boyfriend, then he did have a good reason to break up with you. But if you weren't cheating on him, then he shouldn't have broken yp with you without getting his facts straight. IT's up to you to decide whether you want to give him another chance or not. If you miss him and would like to date him again, then give it a try. But if you think he might dump you again because of a stupid reason, then maybe you should let this one go on.
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to In Love
In Love said...
My best friend and I are both crazy about a boy. I'm blond and my friend is a brunette. He says he likes girls with red hair. If I ask him out and he says yes, my friend will be sad (and vice versa). If one of us dates the boy, it will break a ten year friendship between my friend and I. What should I do?
I think you answered your own question. Since you don't want to break up your ten year friendship, and you don't want anuone to be unhappy, you should avoid dating this boy for now. Maybe things will change in the furute. One of you might decide you'd rather date someone else and the other friend would be free to date the boy you both like(d). It's nice that you respect each other enough to not want to hurt each other's feelings. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever!
~The Advice Columnist
My best friend and I are both crazy about a boy. I'm blond and my friend is a brunette. He says he likes girls with red hair. If I ask him out and he says yes, my friend will be sad (and vice versa). If one of us dates the boy, it will break a ten year friendship between my friend and I. What should I do?
I think you answered your own question. Since you don't want to break up your ten year friendship, and you don't want anuone to be unhappy, you should avoid dating this boy for now. Maybe things will change in the furute. One of you might decide you'd rather date someone else and the other friend would be free to date the boy you both like(d). It's nice that you respect each other enough to not want to hurt each other's feelings. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever!
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Worried
Worried said...
There is a girl I really want to be friends with who is in a different class than mine. We get together at lunchtime and recess and we talk and play. One day, a girl from my class came and told her all the embarrassing things that have happened to me, and now I don't think this girl likes me anumore. What should I do?
It sounds like the other girl was jealous of your friendship with your new friend, and that's why she revealed your embarrassing secrets. That was a mean thing to do. If you can, avoid spending time with her. She can't tell your secrets if she doesn't know them. As for your new friend, why don't you talk to her about what happened? Everyone has something embarrassing that has happened to them, and there's no reason why this girl should hold it against you. She should realize that no one's perfect and give your friendship a chance. If she can't, then maybe she wouldn't make such a good friend anyway.
-The Advice Columnist
There is a girl I really want to be friends with who is in a different class than mine. We get together at lunchtime and recess and we talk and play. One day, a girl from my class came and told her all the embarrassing things that have happened to me, and now I don't think this girl likes me anumore. What should I do?
It sounds like the other girl was jealous of your friendship with your new friend, and that's why she revealed your embarrassing secrets. That was a mean thing to do. If you can, avoid spending time with her. She can't tell your secrets if she doesn't know them. As for your new friend, why don't you talk to her about what happened? Everyone has something embarrassing that has happened to them, and there's no reason why this girl should hold it against you. She should realize that no one's perfect and give your friendship a chance. If she can't, then maybe she wouldn't make such a good friend anyway.
-The Advice Columnist
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
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Even on Advice Central, we need to have a BIT of fun. LOL, happy Christmas Eve Day!!!
~Muffin.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Anonymous said...
It's the eve of Christmas eve today, and I STILL haven't gotten everyone on my list a present!!! What should I do???
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Well, Anonymous, are you thinking homemade or store-bought? Some homemade ideas are:
1. Hot Chocolate: Buy a big tub of hot chocolate mix and put it in separate jars with instructions (preferably on red or green paper) tied to the top. Trust me, it's easy...and it's fun for the reciever!
2. Poems: Write a poem, type it, and print it out on nice paper. It's personalized for the reciever, and it's a great last-minute gift idea.
And store-bought ideas...? Candy canes, teddy bears...anything the person you're giving it to really likes!!!
Hope this helps,
The Advice Columnist
It's the eve of Christmas eve today, and I STILL haven't gotten everyone on my list a present!!! What should I do???
..............................
Well, Anonymous, are you thinking homemade or store-bought? Some homemade ideas are:
1. Hot Chocolate: Buy a big tub of hot chocolate mix and put it in separate jars with instructions (preferably on red or green paper) tied to the top. Trust me, it's easy...and it's fun for the reciever!
2. Poems: Write a poem, type it, and print it out on nice paper. It's personalized for the reciever, and it's a great last-minute gift idea.
And store-bought ideas...? Candy canes, teddy bears...anything the person you're giving it to really likes!!!
Hope this helps,
The Advice Columnist
Monday, December 15, 2008
Anonymous said...
Hi!I recently left my binder up on top of my locker at school and left it there overnight. My ID card was inside it, but the next day it was gone. I think someone stole it, because the pocket it was in was un-zipped. If some one did steal it, then they could use it to pay for lunch, and check out books! What should I do?
Search your locker and recheck your binder. Hopefully it'll be there. Tell the office secretary that someone stole your lunch card if it's not. They'll get you a new one and disactivate the old one so that it's not valid. Even check the lost-and-found. Don't panic. Just go through these steps and you'll be fine.
~The Advice Columnist
Hi!I recently left my binder up on top of my locker at school and left it there overnight. My ID card was inside it, but the next day it was gone. I think someone stole it, because the pocket it was in was un-zipped. If some one did steal it, then they could use it to pay for lunch, and check out books! What should I do?
Search your locker and recheck your binder. Hopefully it'll be there. Tell the office secretary that someone stole your lunch card if it's not. They'll get you a new one and disactivate the old one so that it's not valid. Even check the lost-and-found. Don't panic. Just go through these steps and you'll be fine.
~The Advice Columnist
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Advice to Anonymous
Anonymous said...
Hi there! On a more serious note, my locker neighbor is treting me funny, Fact is all the girls that are her freinds are acting strange to. I used to be really good friends with her, all of them to tell you the truth, but this new school year has brought around a change. I'm now barely reaching the cut off for anything. Sleepovers, birthday parties, anything important!!! They even talk about it in front of me! They aren't mean or anything, but I really feel left out. I've suffered through a whole quarter of this. HELP!!!!!
Well, Anonymous, the first thing to do is ask yourself whether or not you're still a friend of this girl. Sometimes when you feel obligated to be a person's friennd you feel that you should be nicer to that person. If this is the case, analyze your relationship with her. Does she care about your feelings? From what you've told us, she doesn't. Does she care about your opionion? Again, it doesn't sound like it. If you're 100% sure that this girl will NEVER be a good friend for you, talk to her about the situation. It's awkward, I know, but try to be casual about it. It doesn't have to be a flat-out "Why the heck are you being so mean to me, you idiot!?" or anything like that. It doesn't even have to be a "You're making me feel bad. Please stop." It can be a small remark like "What are you doing this weekend?" If what she's talking about interests you, you might be able to keep up a conversation and save your friendship. If she ignores you, tells you to shut up, or says something mean, this friendship of yours is not worth saving. If this happens, you'd be better of with a new friend. Tell a teacher if this girl is making you uncomfortable. Nobody has the right to put you down or make you feel excluded EVER, and this has been going on for a whole quarter? If talking doesn't work out, tell a parent/teacher/other close friend, or even the guidance counselor. Choose good friends...I've learned that the hard way.
~The Advice Columnist.
Hi there! On a more serious note, my locker neighbor is treting me funny, Fact is all the girls that are her freinds are acting strange to. I used to be really good friends with her, all of them to tell you the truth, but this new school year has brought around a change. I'm now barely reaching the cut off for anything. Sleepovers, birthday parties, anything important!!! They even talk about it in front of me! They aren't mean or anything, but I really feel left out. I've suffered through a whole quarter of this. HELP!!!!!
Well, Anonymous, the first thing to do is ask yourself whether or not you're still a friend of this girl. Sometimes when you feel obligated to be a person's friennd you feel that you should be nicer to that person. If this is the case, analyze your relationship with her. Does she care about your feelings? From what you've told us, she doesn't. Does she care about your opionion? Again, it doesn't sound like it. If you're 100% sure that this girl will NEVER be a good friend for you, talk to her about the situation. It's awkward, I know, but try to be casual about it. It doesn't have to be a flat-out "Why the heck are you being so mean to me, you idiot!?" or anything like that. It doesn't even have to be a "You're making me feel bad. Please stop." It can be a small remark like "What are you doing this weekend?" If what she's talking about interests you, you might be able to keep up a conversation and save your friendship. If she ignores you, tells you to shut up, or says something mean, this friendship of yours is not worth saving. If this happens, you'd be better of with a new friend. Tell a teacher if this girl is making you uncomfortable. Nobody has the right to put you down or make you feel excluded EVER, and this has been going on for a whole quarter? If talking doesn't work out, tell a parent/teacher/other close friend, or even the guidance counselor. Choose good friends...I've learned that the hard way.
~The Advice Columnist.
Friday, November 28, 2008
NOTICE
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~The Coffee Snobs.
~The Coffee Snobs.
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Jessie P. of Maryland said...
My name is Jessie. I just recently got a computer from a garage sale, and even though it was broken, I got it working again with an extra CPU chip. Anyway, when I got my computer, I got it because all my friends had one and they kept pressuring me and saying they would hate me until I got one. Now they all have laptops, and they're ignoring me because I have an old hand-me-down computer when they have fancy Dell Notebooks. What should I do? Help!
Jessie: If these people are who you call your friends, you need to seriously get a grip. If ANYONE, and that goes for everybody, makes fun of you, is mean to you, or ignores you just because you don't have what they have, we have serious problems. Do you like your computer? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about these girls that are making your life miserable! They can think what they want, but don't fall into what I like to call the "Clique Trap"! Cliques are like herds of cows. Who wants to be an animals that moo's and barfs up grass four times before they eat it!? My advice: find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and what you have. Be careful, and choose your friends wisely. Hope this helps!!! :)
~The Advice Columnist
My name is Jessie. I just recently got a computer from a garage sale, and even though it was broken, I got it working again with an extra CPU chip. Anyway, when I got my computer, I got it because all my friends had one and they kept pressuring me and saying they would hate me until I got one. Now they all have laptops, and they're ignoring me because I have an old hand-me-down computer when they have fancy Dell Notebooks. What should I do? Help!
Jessie: If these people are who you call your friends, you need to seriously get a grip. If ANYONE, and that goes for everybody, makes fun of you, is mean to you, or ignores you just because you don't have what they have, we have serious problems. Do you like your computer? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about these girls that are making your life miserable! They can think what they want, but don't fall into what I like to call the "Clique Trap"! Cliques are like herds of cows. Who wants to be an animals that moo's and barfs up grass four times before they eat it!? My advice: find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and what you have. Be careful, and choose your friends wisely. Hope this helps!!! :)
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Lenny of NC
Lenny of North Carolina said...
To the Advice Columnist: I want to start a blog, but I don't know how to do it, or what I should put on it. Any suggestions?
Hey! That's, like, the easiest question to answer ever!!! But here it goes:
To make a blog, Blogspot is your place. Go to http://www.blogger.com/ for info on how to do this. Just hit the "Create a Blog" button. What to put on your blog...well. That's easy!
1. Your interests. You like Mac 'n' Cheese? Say so on your blog! Like to read books? Say so on your blog! Whatever you like to do is important!!!
2. What you like to do. Like to skateboard in the park? Go ahead and post about it; where you go, what tricks you do, etc. The readers love it!
3. Arts and crafts or activities. The readers of your blog will LOVE holiday-related activites (as long as it's around that holiday!). Christmastime? Find some cookie recipes or decoration-making crafts. Halloween? Try some pranks/tricks and decorations for your front yard!
4. Anything you want. What the hey, just post about you! Your blog is where you, the blogger, share all your ideas of fun and having a good time!
Hope these help, Lenny, and make sure you tell everyone you know about your blog! A hint from me, the more people you tell, the more people are reading!!!!! ;)
~The Advice Columnist
To the Advice Columnist: I want to start a blog, but I don't know how to do it, or what I should put on it. Any suggestions?
Hey! That's, like, the easiest question to answer ever!!! But here it goes:
To make a blog, Blogspot is your place. Go to http://www.blogger.com/ for info on how to do this. Just hit the "Create a Blog" button. What to put on your blog...well. That's easy!
1. Your interests. You like Mac 'n' Cheese? Say so on your blog! Like to read books? Say so on your blog! Whatever you like to do is important!!!
2. What you like to do. Like to skateboard in the park? Go ahead and post about it; where you go, what tricks you do, etc. The readers love it!
3. Arts and crafts or activities. The readers of your blog will LOVE holiday-related activites (as long as it's around that holiday!). Christmastime? Find some cookie recipes or decoration-making crafts. Halloween? Try some pranks/tricks and decorations for your front yard!
4. Anything you want. What the hey, just post about you! Your blog is where you, the blogger, share all your ideas of fun and having a good time!
Hope these help, Lenny, and make sure you tell everyone you know about your blog! A hint from me, the more people you tell, the more people are reading!!!!! ;)
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Lauren!
Lauren! said...
i have a cousin who's always acting like a dork. she's older than me, but she acts like she's 5! how do i get her inot reality? help!!
Sounds like you really don't like your cousin. Try talking to her about how you feel. Tell her that you wish she would act more her age, and see if it helps at all. If it doesn't, talk to her parents about it. Or another cousin. Honesty, in this situation, is the way to go. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
i have a cousin who's always acting like a dork. she's older than me, but she acts like she's 5! how do i get her inot reality? help!!
Sounds like you really don't like your cousin. Try talking to her about how you feel. Tell her that you wish she would act more her age, and see if it helps at all. If it doesn't, talk to her parents about it. Or another cousin. Honesty, in this situation, is the way to go. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Advice #?
Anonymous said...
Sorry, but this is really long. Okay. I have this one freind who's the best friend ever. She was my best friend until I started Middle School, and then she started hanging out with other people that I don't like. My other friend isn't as great as the first friend was, but she's almost always loyal, even when she's with her other friends. My first friend is always using me as her second choice for an invitee to a party, to talk to for homework help, etc. How can I stay friends with my first friend, retain my friendship with my other friend, and not feel like I'm being used or excluded? PLEASE HELP!!!
Wow, that is long! But first of all, analyze your friendship with Friend I. A good friend is always loyal and accepts the fact that you're her friend along with her other friends. Also, think about what you're saying when you talk to her. If she were analyzing your friendship, would she think you were a good friend to her? If the answer to this is no, then try talking to your friend in a nicer way. If the answer is yes, then maybe you should either stick to Friend II or find some new friends. If your friends are really, truly, irrevocably your friends, then you shouldn't have to bend and stretch to make ends meet. Just be yourself, and everything will be fine. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Sorry, but this is really long. Okay. I have this one freind who's the best friend ever. She was my best friend until I started Middle School, and then she started hanging out with other people that I don't like. My other friend isn't as great as the first friend was, but she's almost always loyal, even when she's with her other friends. My first friend is always using me as her second choice for an invitee to a party, to talk to for homework help, etc. How can I stay friends with my first friend, retain my friendship with my other friend, and not feel like I'm being used or excluded? PLEASE HELP!!!
Wow, that is long! But first of all, analyze your friendship with Friend I. A good friend is always loyal and accepts the fact that you're her friend along with her other friends. Also, think about what you're saying when you talk to her. If she were analyzing your friendship, would she think you were a good friend to her? If the answer to this is no, then try talking to your friend in a nicer way. If the answer is yes, then maybe you should either stick to Friend II or find some new friends. If your friends are really, truly, irrevocably your friends, then you shouldn't have to bend and stretch to make ends meet. Just be yourself, and everything will be fine. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Advice #?
Natalie said...
My name is Natalie, and I'm in sixth grade. There's this one boy at my bus stop that is really mean to me. He says dirty stuff and is always throwing bad hand signals at me. He's in eighth grade, and he scares me. I told my parents, and they phoned the principal, but the boy keeps bugging me. I try to ignore him, but can't. I don't think I can handle this much longer. What should I do?
Ignoring people who are really mean barely ever works. Try talking to him, or getting one of his friends to talk to him. Telling your busdriver might be easier, though. If he still teases you on the bus the bus drive might be able to stop him. If that doesn't work go to the principal or counselor yourself. Asking other people who saw him bugging you to come with you, theyre more likely to believe you. If everything else fails, see if your parents could drive you to school for a couple days. If he can't tease you for a while, he may give up. I hope this advice helps!
Luv,
The advice columnist
My name is Natalie, and I'm in sixth grade. There's this one boy at my bus stop that is really mean to me. He says dirty stuff and is always throwing bad hand signals at me. He's in eighth grade, and he scares me. I told my parents, and they phoned the principal, but the boy keeps bugging me. I try to ignore him, but can't. I don't think I can handle this much longer. What should I do?
Ignoring people who are really mean barely ever works. Try talking to him, or getting one of his friends to talk to him. Telling your busdriver might be easier, though. If he still teases you on the bus the bus drive might be able to stop him. If that doesn't work go to the principal or counselor yourself. Asking other people who saw him bugging you to come with you, theyre more likely to believe you. If everything else fails, see if your parents could drive you to school for a couple days. If he can't tease you for a while, he may give up. I hope this advice helps!
Luv,
The advice columnist
Advice #?
Anita Polly said...
My mom just died. I'm really depressed, and none of my friends hang out with me anymore...probably because they don't want me blubbering about my parent's death. What should I do?
You sound really sad about that, and we understand why. Have you tried talking to your friends about it? Maybe theyre just afraid of saying the wrong thing. If that doesn't work and you still need someone to talk to, go to the school counselor. You could also try talking to your dad or another relative they youre close to. Just talking usually helps a lot. Also: If your friends wont even give you a chance theyre probably not very good friends. I hope this advice helps, and I'm sorry about your mom.
Luv,
The advice columnist
My mom just died. I'm really depressed, and none of my friends hang out with me anymore...probably because they don't want me blubbering about my parent's death. What should I do?
You sound really sad about that, and we understand why. Have you tried talking to your friends about it? Maybe theyre just afraid of saying the wrong thing. If that doesn't work and you still need someone to talk to, go to the school counselor. You could also try talking to your dad or another relative they youre close to. Just talking usually helps a lot. Also: If your friends wont even give you a chance theyre probably not very good friends. I hope this advice helps, and I'm sorry about your mom.
Luv,
The advice columnist
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