Lovesick said...
There's a guy in my class named Seth. I totally have a crush on him. But he is so mean to me. He pushes me, and I start to cry! I don't mind, because my friends are there to help me. What should I do?
I know you feel like it's okay that this boy pushes you because you have good friends around to help you, but it's not acceptable for him to push you. It's mean and disrespectful of him to physically hurt you. If a boy makes you cry, that's a sign that he'll make a bad boyfriend. Take my advice and find a new boy to have a crush on. You need a boyfriend who'll give you a warm hug instead of a mean push!
~The Advice Columnist.
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Advice to Jenny
Jenny said...
My exboyfriend dumped me because he thought I was cheating on him. Now he's saying he still likes me. What if he asks me out again?
If you were cheating on your boyfriend, then he did have a good reason to break up with you. But if you weren't cheating on him, then he shouldn't have broken yp with you without getting his facts straight. IT's up to you to decide whether you want to give him another chance or not. If you miss him and would like to date him again, then give it a try. But if you think he might dump you again because of a stupid reason, then maybe you should let this one go on.
~The Advice Columnist
My exboyfriend dumped me because he thought I was cheating on him. Now he's saying he still likes me. What if he asks me out again?
If you were cheating on your boyfriend, then he did have a good reason to break up with you. But if you weren't cheating on him, then he shouldn't have broken yp with you without getting his facts straight. IT's up to you to decide whether you want to give him another chance or not. If you miss him and would like to date him again, then give it a try. But if you think he might dump you again because of a stupid reason, then maybe you should let this one go on.
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to In Love
In Love said...
My best friend and I are both crazy about a boy. I'm blond and my friend is a brunette. He says he likes girls with red hair. If I ask him out and he says yes, my friend will be sad (and vice versa). If one of us dates the boy, it will break a ten year friendship between my friend and I. What should I do?
I think you answered your own question. Since you don't want to break up your ten year friendship, and you don't want anuone to be unhappy, you should avoid dating this boy for now. Maybe things will change in the furute. One of you might decide you'd rather date someone else and the other friend would be free to date the boy you both like(d). It's nice that you respect each other enough to not want to hurt each other's feelings. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever!
~The Advice Columnist
My best friend and I are both crazy about a boy. I'm blond and my friend is a brunette. He says he likes girls with red hair. If I ask him out and he says yes, my friend will be sad (and vice versa). If one of us dates the boy, it will break a ten year friendship between my friend and I. What should I do?
I think you answered your own question. Since you don't want to break up your ten year friendship, and you don't want anuone to be unhappy, you should avoid dating this boy for now. Maybe things will change in the furute. One of you might decide you'd rather date someone else and the other friend would be free to date the boy you both like(d). It's nice that you respect each other enough to not want to hurt each other's feelings. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever!
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Worried
Worried said...
There is a girl I really want to be friends with who is in a different class than mine. We get together at lunchtime and recess and we talk and play. One day, a girl from my class came and told her all the embarrassing things that have happened to me, and now I don't think this girl likes me anumore. What should I do?
It sounds like the other girl was jealous of your friendship with your new friend, and that's why she revealed your embarrassing secrets. That was a mean thing to do. If you can, avoid spending time with her. She can't tell your secrets if she doesn't know them. As for your new friend, why don't you talk to her about what happened? Everyone has something embarrassing that has happened to them, and there's no reason why this girl should hold it against you. She should realize that no one's perfect and give your friendship a chance. If she can't, then maybe she wouldn't make such a good friend anyway.
-The Advice Columnist
There is a girl I really want to be friends with who is in a different class than mine. We get together at lunchtime and recess and we talk and play. One day, a girl from my class came and told her all the embarrassing things that have happened to me, and now I don't think this girl likes me anumore. What should I do?
It sounds like the other girl was jealous of your friendship with your new friend, and that's why she revealed your embarrassing secrets. That was a mean thing to do. If you can, avoid spending time with her. She can't tell your secrets if she doesn't know them. As for your new friend, why don't you talk to her about what happened? Everyone has something embarrassing that has happened to them, and there's no reason why this girl should hold it against you. She should realize that no one's perfect and give your friendship a chance. If she can't, then maybe she wouldn't make such a good friend anyway.
-The Advice Columnist
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
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~Muffin.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Anonymous said...
It's the eve of Christmas eve today, and I STILL haven't gotten everyone on my list a present!!! What should I do???
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Well, Anonymous, are you thinking homemade or store-bought? Some homemade ideas are:
1. Hot Chocolate: Buy a big tub of hot chocolate mix and put it in separate jars with instructions (preferably on red or green paper) tied to the top. Trust me, it's easy...and it's fun for the reciever!
2. Poems: Write a poem, type it, and print it out on nice paper. It's personalized for the reciever, and it's a great last-minute gift idea.
And store-bought ideas...? Candy canes, teddy bears...anything the person you're giving it to really likes!!!
Hope this helps,
The Advice Columnist
It's the eve of Christmas eve today, and I STILL haven't gotten everyone on my list a present!!! What should I do???
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Well, Anonymous, are you thinking homemade or store-bought? Some homemade ideas are:
1. Hot Chocolate: Buy a big tub of hot chocolate mix and put it in separate jars with instructions (preferably on red or green paper) tied to the top. Trust me, it's easy...and it's fun for the reciever!
2. Poems: Write a poem, type it, and print it out on nice paper. It's personalized for the reciever, and it's a great last-minute gift idea.
And store-bought ideas...? Candy canes, teddy bears...anything the person you're giving it to really likes!!!
Hope this helps,
The Advice Columnist
Monday, December 15, 2008
Anonymous said...
Hi!I recently left my binder up on top of my locker at school and left it there overnight. My ID card was inside it, but the next day it was gone. I think someone stole it, because the pocket it was in was un-zipped. If some one did steal it, then they could use it to pay for lunch, and check out books! What should I do?
Search your locker and recheck your binder. Hopefully it'll be there. Tell the office secretary that someone stole your lunch card if it's not. They'll get you a new one and disactivate the old one so that it's not valid. Even check the lost-and-found. Don't panic. Just go through these steps and you'll be fine.
~The Advice Columnist
Hi!I recently left my binder up on top of my locker at school and left it there overnight. My ID card was inside it, but the next day it was gone. I think someone stole it, because the pocket it was in was un-zipped. If some one did steal it, then they could use it to pay for lunch, and check out books! What should I do?
Search your locker and recheck your binder. Hopefully it'll be there. Tell the office secretary that someone stole your lunch card if it's not. They'll get you a new one and disactivate the old one so that it's not valid. Even check the lost-and-found. Don't panic. Just go through these steps and you'll be fine.
~The Advice Columnist
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Advice to Anonymous
Anonymous said...
Hi there! On a more serious note, my locker neighbor is treting me funny, Fact is all the girls that are her freinds are acting strange to. I used to be really good friends with her, all of them to tell you the truth, but this new school year has brought around a change. I'm now barely reaching the cut off for anything. Sleepovers, birthday parties, anything important!!! They even talk about it in front of me! They aren't mean or anything, but I really feel left out. I've suffered through a whole quarter of this. HELP!!!!!
Well, Anonymous, the first thing to do is ask yourself whether or not you're still a friend of this girl. Sometimes when you feel obligated to be a person's friennd you feel that you should be nicer to that person. If this is the case, analyze your relationship with her. Does she care about your feelings? From what you've told us, she doesn't. Does she care about your opionion? Again, it doesn't sound like it. If you're 100% sure that this girl will NEVER be a good friend for you, talk to her about the situation. It's awkward, I know, but try to be casual about it. It doesn't have to be a flat-out "Why the heck are you being so mean to me, you idiot!?" or anything like that. It doesn't even have to be a "You're making me feel bad. Please stop." It can be a small remark like "What are you doing this weekend?" If what she's talking about interests you, you might be able to keep up a conversation and save your friendship. If she ignores you, tells you to shut up, or says something mean, this friendship of yours is not worth saving. If this happens, you'd be better of with a new friend. Tell a teacher if this girl is making you uncomfortable. Nobody has the right to put you down or make you feel excluded EVER, and this has been going on for a whole quarter? If talking doesn't work out, tell a parent/teacher/other close friend, or even the guidance counselor. Choose good friends...I've learned that the hard way.
~The Advice Columnist.
Hi there! On a more serious note, my locker neighbor is treting me funny, Fact is all the girls that are her freinds are acting strange to. I used to be really good friends with her, all of them to tell you the truth, but this new school year has brought around a change. I'm now barely reaching the cut off for anything. Sleepovers, birthday parties, anything important!!! They even talk about it in front of me! They aren't mean or anything, but I really feel left out. I've suffered through a whole quarter of this. HELP!!!!!
Well, Anonymous, the first thing to do is ask yourself whether or not you're still a friend of this girl. Sometimes when you feel obligated to be a person's friennd you feel that you should be nicer to that person. If this is the case, analyze your relationship with her. Does she care about your feelings? From what you've told us, she doesn't. Does she care about your opionion? Again, it doesn't sound like it. If you're 100% sure that this girl will NEVER be a good friend for you, talk to her about the situation. It's awkward, I know, but try to be casual about it. It doesn't have to be a flat-out "Why the heck are you being so mean to me, you idiot!?" or anything like that. It doesn't even have to be a "You're making me feel bad. Please stop." It can be a small remark like "What are you doing this weekend?" If what she's talking about interests you, you might be able to keep up a conversation and save your friendship. If she ignores you, tells you to shut up, or says something mean, this friendship of yours is not worth saving. If this happens, you'd be better of with a new friend. Tell a teacher if this girl is making you uncomfortable. Nobody has the right to put you down or make you feel excluded EVER, and this has been going on for a whole quarter? If talking doesn't work out, tell a parent/teacher/other close friend, or even the guidance counselor. Choose good friends...I've learned that the hard way.
~The Advice Columnist.
Friday, November 28, 2008
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Thursday, November 6, 2008
Jessie P. of Maryland said...
My name is Jessie. I just recently got a computer from a garage sale, and even though it was broken, I got it working again with an extra CPU chip. Anyway, when I got my computer, I got it because all my friends had one and they kept pressuring me and saying they would hate me until I got one. Now they all have laptops, and they're ignoring me because I have an old hand-me-down computer when they have fancy Dell Notebooks. What should I do? Help!
Jessie: If these people are who you call your friends, you need to seriously get a grip. If ANYONE, and that goes for everybody, makes fun of you, is mean to you, or ignores you just because you don't have what they have, we have serious problems. Do you like your computer? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about these girls that are making your life miserable! They can think what they want, but don't fall into what I like to call the "Clique Trap"! Cliques are like herds of cows. Who wants to be an animals that moo's and barfs up grass four times before they eat it!? My advice: find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and what you have. Be careful, and choose your friends wisely. Hope this helps!!! :)
~The Advice Columnist
My name is Jessie. I just recently got a computer from a garage sale, and even though it was broken, I got it working again with an extra CPU chip. Anyway, when I got my computer, I got it because all my friends had one and they kept pressuring me and saying they would hate me until I got one. Now they all have laptops, and they're ignoring me because I have an old hand-me-down computer when they have fancy Dell Notebooks. What should I do? Help!
Jessie: If these people are who you call your friends, you need to seriously get a grip. If ANYONE, and that goes for everybody, makes fun of you, is mean to you, or ignores you just because you don't have what they have, we have serious problems. Do you like your computer? If the answer is yes, then don't worry about these girls that are making your life miserable! They can think what they want, but don't fall into what I like to call the "Clique Trap"! Cliques are like herds of cows. Who wants to be an animals that moo's and barfs up grass four times before they eat it!? My advice: find some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and what you have. Be careful, and choose your friends wisely. Hope this helps!!! :)
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Lenny of NC
Lenny of North Carolina said...
To the Advice Columnist: I want to start a blog, but I don't know how to do it, or what I should put on it. Any suggestions?
Hey! That's, like, the easiest question to answer ever!!! But here it goes:
To make a blog, Blogspot is your place. Go to http://www.blogger.com/ for info on how to do this. Just hit the "Create a Blog" button. What to put on your blog...well. That's easy!
1. Your interests. You like Mac 'n' Cheese? Say so on your blog! Like to read books? Say so on your blog! Whatever you like to do is important!!!
2. What you like to do. Like to skateboard in the park? Go ahead and post about it; where you go, what tricks you do, etc. The readers love it!
3. Arts and crafts or activities. The readers of your blog will LOVE holiday-related activites (as long as it's around that holiday!). Christmastime? Find some cookie recipes or decoration-making crafts. Halloween? Try some pranks/tricks and decorations for your front yard!
4. Anything you want. What the hey, just post about you! Your blog is where you, the blogger, share all your ideas of fun and having a good time!
Hope these help, Lenny, and make sure you tell everyone you know about your blog! A hint from me, the more people you tell, the more people are reading!!!!! ;)
~The Advice Columnist
To the Advice Columnist: I want to start a blog, but I don't know how to do it, or what I should put on it. Any suggestions?
Hey! That's, like, the easiest question to answer ever!!! But here it goes:
To make a blog, Blogspot is your place. Go to http://www.blogger.com/ for info on how to do this. Just hit the "Create a Blog" button. What to put on your blog...well. That's easy!
1. Your interests. You like Mac 'n' Cheese? Say so on your blog! Like to read books? Say so on your blog! Whatever you like to do is important!!!
2. What you like to do. Like to skateboard in the park? Go ahead and post about it; where you go, what tricks you do, etc. The readers love it!
3. Arts and crafts or activities. The readers of your blog will LOVE holiday-related activites (as long as it's around that holiday!). Christmastime? Find some cookie recipes or decoration-making crafts. Halloween? Try some pranks/tricks and decorations for your front yard!
4. Anything you want. What the hey, just post about you! Your blog is where you, the blogger, share all your ideas of fun and having a good time!
Hope these help, Lenny, and make sure you tell everyone you know about your blog! A hint from me, the more people you tell, the more people are reading!!!!! ;)
~The Advice Columnist
Advice to Lauren!
Lauren! said...
i have a cousin who's always acting like a dork. she's older than me, but she acts like she's 5! how do i get her inot reality? help!!
Sounds like you really don't like your cousin. Try talking to her about how you feel. Tell her that you wish she would act more her age, and see if it helps at all. If it doesn't, talk to her parents about it. Or another cousin. Honesty, in this situation, is the way to go. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
i have a cousin who's always acting like a dork. she's older than me, but she acts like she's 5! how do i get her inot reality? help!!
Sounds like you really don't like your cousin. Try talking to her about how you feel. Tell her that you wish she would act more her age, and see if it helps at all. If it doesn't, talk to her parents about it. Or another cousin. Honesty, in this situation, is the way to go. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Advice #?
Anonymous said...
Sorry, but this is really long. Okay. I have this one freind who's the best friend ever. She was my best friend until I started Middle School, and then she started hanging out with other people that I don't like. My other friend isn't as great as the first friend was, but she's almost always loyal, even when she's with her other friends. My first friend is always using me as her second choice for an invitee to a party, to talk to for homework help, etc. How can I stay friends with my first friend, retain my friendship with my other friend, and not feel like I'm being used or excluded? PLEASE HELP!!!
Wow, that is long! But first of all, analyze your friendship with Friend I. A good friend is always loyal and accepts the fact that you're her friend along with her other friends. Also, think about what you're saying when you talk to her. If she were analyzing your friendship, would she think you were a good friend to her? If the answer to this is no, then try talking to your friend in a nicer way. If the answer is yes, then maybe you should either stick to Friend II or find some new friends. If your friends are really, truly, irrevocably your friends, then you shouldn't have to bend and stretch to make ends meet. Just be yourself, and everything will be fine. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Sorry, but this is really long. Okay. I have this one freind who's the best friend ever. She was my best friend until I started Middle School, and then she started hanging out with other people that I don't like. My other friend isn't as great as the first friend was, but she's almost always loyal, even when she's with her other friends. My first friend is always using me as her second choice for an invitee to a party, to talk to for homework help, etc. How can I stay friends with my first friend, retain my friendship with my other friend, and not feel like I'm being used or excluded? PLEASE HELP!!!
Wow, that is long! But first of all, analyze your friendship with Friend I. A good friend is always loyal and accepts the fact that you're her friend along with her other friends. Also, think about what you're saying when you talk to her. If she were analyzing your friendship, would she think you were a good friend to her? If the answer to this is no, then try talking to your friend in a nicer way. If the answer is yes, then maybe you should either stick to Friend II or find some new friends. If your friends are really, truly, irrevocably your friends, then you shouldn't have to bend and stretch to make ends meet. Just be yourself, and everything will be fine. Hope this helps!!!
~The Advice Columnist
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Advice #?
Natalie said...
My name is Natalie, and I'm in sixth grade. There's this one boy at my bus stop that is really mean to me. He says dirty stuff and is always throwing bad hand signals at me. He's in eighth grade, and he scares me. I told my parents, and they phoned the principal, but the boy keeps bugging me. I try to ignore him, but can't. I don't think I can handle this much longer. What should I do?
Ignoring people who are really mean barely ever works. Try talking to him, or getting one of his friends to talk to him. Telling your busdriver might be easier, though. If he still teases you on the bus the bus drive might be able to stop him. If that doesn't work go to the principal or counselor yourself. Asking other people who saw him bugging you to come with you, theyre more likely to believe you. If everything else fails, see if your parents could drive you to school for a couple days. If he can't tease you for a while, he may give up. I hope this advice helps!
Luv,
The advice columnist
My name is Natalie, and I'm in sixth grade. There's this one boy at my bus stop that is really mean to me. He says dirty stuff and is always throwing bad hand signals at me. He's in eighth grade, and he scares me. I told my parents, and they phoned the principal, but the boy keeps bugging me. I try to ignore him, but can't. I don't think I can handle this much longer. What should I do?
Ignoring people who are really mean barely ever works. Try talking to him, or getting one of his friends to talk to him. Telling your busdriver might be easier, though. If he still teases you on the bus the bus drive might be able to stop him. If that doesn't work go to the principal or counselor yourself. Asking other people who saw him bugging you to come with you, theyre more likely to believe you. If everything else fails, see if your parents could drive you to school for a couple days. If he can't tease you for a while, he may give up. I hope this advice helps!
Luv,
The advice columnist
Advice #?
Anita Polly said...
My mom just died. I'm really depressed, and none of my friends hang out with me anymore...probably because they don't want me blubbering about my parent's death. What should I do?
You sound really sad about that, and we understand why. Have you tried talking to your friends about it? Maybe theyre just afraid of saying the wrong thing. If that doesn't work and you still need someone to talk to, go to the school counselor. You could also try talking to your dad or another relative they youre close to. Just talking usually helps a lot. Also: If your friends wont even give you a chance theyre probably not very good friends. I hope this advice helps, and I'm sorry about your mom.
Luv,
The advice columnist
My mom just died. I'm really depressed, and none of my friends hang out with me anymore...probably because they don't want me blubbering about my parent's death. What should I do?
You sound really sad about that, and we understand why. Have you tried talking to your friends about it? Maybe theyre just afraid of saying the wrong thing. If that doesn't work and you still need someone to talk to, go to the school counselor. You could also try talking to your dad or another relative they youre close to. Just talking usually helps a lot. Also: If your friends wont even give you a chance theyre probably not very good friends. I hope this advice helps, and I'm sorry about your mom.
Luv,
The advice columnist
Monday, October 27, 2008
Advice #?
Amanda S. said...
I'm in eighth grade. I ride the bus with these two seventh grade girls. One of them is really awesome, and we're okay friends. But the other one is always putting me down, like all the sixth grade boys do. I put on make-up...a lot of make-up...do you think that's it? She's always being mean to me. How can I make her stop? Is she jealous that I like her friend better than her, or does she think I look weird? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
Amanda S:
Try talking with this seventh grader. Tell her she's making you feel bad, and to please stop. I know this usually doesn't work, but it's worth a try. If it doesn't, ask the other seventh grader to have a talk with the girl. If she's jealous that you like her friend better, try to get to know and like the girl better. Talk with her a bit more so she feels included. I know first-hand how annoying it is to be ignored--especially in your time of need--so let her join in on your conversations. Also, if you think you look nice in make-up, that's your choice. Don't let this girl rule you if you're just being yourself.
Hope this helps!!!
luv,
the advicecolumnist
I'm in eighth grade. I ride the bus with these two seventh grade girls. One of them is really awesome, and we're okay friends. But the other one is always putting me down, like all the sixth grade boys do. I put on make-up...a lot of make-up...do you think that's it? She's always being mean to me. How can I make her stop? Is she jealous that I like her friend better than her, or does she think I look weird? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
Amanda S:
Try talking with this seventh grader. Tell her she's making you feel bad, and to please stop. I know this usually doesn't work, but it's worth a try. If it doesn't, ask the other seventh grader to have a talk with the girl. If she's jealous that you like her friend better, try to get to know and like the girl better. Talk with her a bit more so she feels included. I know first-hand how annoying it is to be ignored--especially in your time of need--so let her join in on your conversations. Also, if you think you look nice in make-up, that's your choice. Don't let this girl rule you if you're just being yourself.
Hope this helps!!!
luv,
the advicecolumnist
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Advice #?
Kimmy says...
My parents are always fighting with my younger brother. I try not to get on their nerves because their under a lot of stress with the stock market and stuff. But kids at school keep teasing me and asking when the divorce is. When I tell them to stop, they call me a baby and a bunch of mean names and laugh. What should I do?
The Advice Columnist says...
Well Kimmy, it seems like you need to have a talk with your parents about how this is affecting you. If you feel uncomfortable talking about this with your parents, talking to the school counselors is always a good choice. They can help you figure out what to do in your situation. Also, try to stay away from the kids that tease you. Try to avoid them, but if you can't get away, take their teasing calmly and cooly. Soon they'll figure out that they can't get to you and hopefully stop.
Hope we could help!
~The Advice Columnist
My parents are always fighting with my younger brother. I try not to get on their nerves because their under a lot of stress with the stock market and stuff. But kids at school keep teasing me and asking when the divorce is. When I tell them to stop, they call me a baby and a bunch of mean names and laugh. What should I do?
The Advice Columnist says...
Well Kimmy, it seems like you need to have a talk with your parents about how this is affecting you. If you feel uncomfortable talking about this with your parents, talking to the school counselors is always a good choice. They can help you figure out what to do in your situation. Also, try to stay away from the kids that tease you. Try to avoid them, but if you can't get away, take their teasing calmly and cooly. Soon they'll figure out that they can't get to you and hopefully stop.
Hope we could help!
~The Advice Columnist
Muffin's Advice
Starr said...
I really like this one guy, but he likes another girl, and everyone knows it. Now my best friend is spreading rumors about me wanting to break them up, and that's not true. Has this ever happened to you? Please help...!
Starr:
Analyze your relationship with your best friend. Is she nice to you? Do you enjoy being around her? Talk to her, or at least text her (because sometimes that's easier) telling her that what she's saying isn't true. If you really like this one guy, you shouldn't care that he's going out with someone else, and you should respect him for making his choice. DO tell him how you feel about him. DON'T try to break the pair up. If he likes you back, you'll know.
Muffin's Advice (finished by another columnist)
Anne said...
Hey, advicecolumnist? I have a bit of a problem. Could you help me? My parents are getting a divorce, and now some of my friends are avoiding me. I don't know why, and whenever I try to talk to one of them, they all giggle and run away before I can ask why. I tried chasing them once, but they're faster than me. Is there something wrong with me, or do they not want to be caught up in my parents' divorce?
Anne:
There's nothing wrong with you. Your friends might not feel like hanging around with you anymore because they don't know what to say to make your situation any different. They probably have never been through a divorce so they don't know how to react. See if you school or community has a divorce group, if they do it might be a nice way to meet people that are sharing your same feelings. If they dont, try going to your counselor and telling them about the problem. They might know kids who want to help you or hang out wiht you! GOOD LUCK!
love,
The Advice Columnist
Hey, advicecolumnist? I have a bit of a problem. Could you help me? My parents are getting a divorce, and now some of my friends are avoiding me. I don't know why, and whenever I try to talk to one of them, they all giggle and run away before I can ask why. I tried chasing them once, but they're faster than me. Is there something wrong with me, or do they not want to be caught up in my parents' divorce?
Anne:
There's nothing wrong with you. Your friends might not feel like hanging around with you anymore because they don't know what to say to make your situation any different. They probably have never been through a divorce so they don't know how to react. See if you school or community has a divorce group, if they do it might be a nice way to meet people that are sharing your same feelings. If they dont, try going to your counselor and telling them about the problem. They might know kids who want to help you or hang out wiht you! GOOD LUCK!
love,
The Advice Columnist
Friday, October 17, 2008
Online
Hey, Coffeesnobs:
The Coffee Snobs blog is back online. This is Muffin, and I fixed it. Yes, I decided to keep posting. Just don't put any pictures on the sides.
~Muffin.
The Coffee Snobs blog is back online. This is Muffin, and I fixed it. Yes, I decided to keep posting. Just don't put any pictures on the sides.
~Muffin.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Advice #7
Colette said...
Hi. I have a friend who...when I think of it...isn't really a good friend. She's always putting me down, and whenever I go out shopping and I'm really proud of what I wear, she critisizes it. What should I do to let her know that I don't want to be her friend?
If your friend is that bad, you should try telling her to her face. It's probably best to do this when you guys are alone outside of school. If there are other people around it might be harder to actually talk. If you don't think you'll be able to tell her to her face, try texting or e-mailing her. Be careful with that though. It's easy to read it the wrong way. I hope this works out for you!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
Hi. I have a friend who...when I think of it...isn't really a good friend. She's always putting me down, and whenever I go out shopping and I'm really proud of what I wear, she critisizes it. What should I do to let her know that I don't want to be her friend?
If your friend is that bad, you should try telling her to her face. It's probably best to do this when you guys are alone outside of school. If there are other people around it might be harder to actually talk. If you don't think you'll be able to tell her to her face, try texting or e-mailing her. Be careful with that though. It's easy to read it the wrong way. I hope this works out for you!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Advice #6
Anonymous Said...
Hi. I have some friends in my class that are all girls and a couple years ago they made a blog. They have never shared their password with me to let me on. I feel like we've been growing apart ever since they made it. It has been almost 2-3 years and they still won't let me on!!! They don't act any different but I still feel really left out. I really need some advice right now...
Have you tried talking to them about it? They may have no idea that you feel this way. Try texting or e-mailing one of them. like we said in our last post, it's usually easier to talk over texting than in real life. I know how it feels to be left out, but I'm pretty sure if you talk to them they'll give you the password if you just talk to them about it. If they don't, try to get them to explain why not. If all of that fails, you could always start your own blog. If you give us the URL, maybe we could put the link on our blog. Don't stress too much about it! Things will work out sooner or later. Hope this helped!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
P.S. If they won't include you at all, maybe there aren't really your friends. Think about it. : )
Hi. I have some friends in my class that are all girls and a couple years ago they made a blog. They have never shared their password with me to let me on. I feel like we've been growing apart ever since they made it. It has been almost 2-3 years and they still won't let me on!!! They don't act any different but I still feel really left out. I really need some advice right now...
Have you tried talking to them about it? They may have no idea that you feel this way. Try texting or e-mailing one of them. like we said in our last post, it's usually easier to talk over texting than in real life. I know how it feels to be left out, but I'm pretty sure if you talk to them they'll give you the password if you just talk to them about it. If they don't, try to get them to explain why not. If all of that fails, you could always start your own blog. If you give us the URL, maybe we could put the link on our blog. Don't stress too much about it! Things will work out sooner or later. Hope this helped!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
P.S. If they won't include you at all, maybe there aren't really your friends. Think about it. : )
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Advice # 5 ( i think......)
Skyler said...
Ummm...This is Skyler. I'm in 7th grade at Marlowe. I was wondering if you guys would answer a question I have. Okay. I really like this guy, but he's always hanging out with his friends on 7-1 and I was wondering what to do. I talk to him and we're best friends-we have been since preschool. We even went out together for a few weeks, but then he called it off. How can I talk to him without feeling like a loser because I got dumped??? Please help!!!
Well first try to figure out why he dumped you. Maybe you werent meant to be together. Try to sit with him at lunch or hang out with him after school. Ask him for his emali address of AIM. That way you can talk to him without feeling embarrassed. I find that it's alot eaiser to talk to a guy through email or texts than it is in person. Don't feel like loser because he dumped you! It wasn't your fault, he obviously just didn't think it was gonna work at the time. Once you and him build up a good relationship as freinds again, maybe try to see if he likes you more than a friend.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and remember your not the only person who deals with trouble like this, I know EXACTLY how you feel! lol
Ps. Wow alot of people read our blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
Ummm...This is Skyler. I'm in 7th grade at Marlowe. I was wondering if you guys would answer a question I have. Okay. I really like this guy, but he's always hanging out with his friends on 7-1 and I was wondering what to do. I talk to him and we're best friends-we have been since preschool. We even went out together for a few weeks, but then he called it off. How can I talk to him without feeling like a loser because I got dumped??? Please help!!!
Well first try to figure out why he dumped you. Maybe you werent meant to be together. Try to sit with him at lunch or hang out with him after school. Ask him for his emali address of AIM. That way you can talk to him without feeling embarrassed. I find that it's alot eaiser to talk to a guy through email or texts than it is in person. Don't feel like loser because he dumped you! It wasn't your fault, he obviously just didn't think it was gonna work at the time. Once you and him build up a good relationship as freinds again, maybe try to see if he likes you more than a friend.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and remember your not the only person who deals with trouble like this, I know EXACTLY how you feel! lol
Ps. Wow alot of people read our blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love,
The Advice Columnist
Monday, September 15, 2008
Blog Link
We recently got a question from Artsy Monkey asking us how to get people to read her blog. Here's the link to it, check it out sometime!
www.artsymonkey.blogspot.com
Luv,
The Advice Columnist
www.artsymonkey.blogspot.com
Luv,
The Advice Columnist
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Advice # (i gotta think of a better title)
ImJustME said...
ok, so i really like this guy but i dont know if he likes me back. He is nice to me but he also teases me in a joking kind of way. He even asked me who i liked once. Do you think he likes me? Also what are some ways to tell if a guy likes you?
The Advice Columnist said...
I think you might really have a chance with this guy. I think it's safe to say that he has a good chance of liking you back. Unfortunately there are no definite ways to find out if a guy likes you besides asking him yourself. If you don't really feel up to that (i don't blame you) you could also just wait a while. If you keep the same relationship up, that guy will most likely realize he really likes you back. Sorry if it's really indefinite, but to make this definite, you gotta take some chances. Hope this could help!!
Luv,
The Advice Columnist
ok, so i really like this guy but i dont know if he likes me back. He is nice to me but he also teases me in a joking kind of way. He even asked me who i liked once. Do you think he likes me? Also what are some ways to tell if a guy likes you?
The Advice Columnist said...
I think you might really have a chance with this guy. I think it's safe to say that he has a good chance of liking you back. Unfortunately there are no definite ways to find out if a guy likes you besides asking him yourself. If you don't really feel up to that (i don't blame you) you could also just wait a while. If you keep the same relationship up, that guy will most likely realize he really likes you back. Sorry if it's really indefinite, but to make this definite, you gotta take some chances. Hope this could help!!
Luv,
The Advice Columnist
Friday, September 12, 2008
Advice #3
artsymonkey said
I'm starting a new blog but how can I get people2 read it?
Well think about how you got to reading our blog. Did you hear about through friends or family or maybe you just came apon it. My advice is tell all your friends. Ask your friends to tell their friends. If your blog is approprite tell your family and teachers about it too. Talking is a great way to network!
Love
The Advice Columnist
PS give me the web address and maybe we can post a link! =)
I'm starting a new blog but how can I get people2 read it?
Well think about how you got to reading our blog. Did you hear about through friends or family or maybe you just came apon it. My advice is tell all your friends. Ask your friends to tell their friends. If your blog is approprite tell your family and teachers about it too. Talking is a great way to network!
Love
The Advice Columnist
PS give me the web address and maybe we can post a link! =)
Advice #2
shortylgotllow said...
i could use some advice. a good friend of mine is really good friends with a guy that's pretty much just a regular friend at this point, even though i kinda like him. i kinda feel like i can't really talk about it and it kinda makes part of me want to cry and part of me kinda mad and part of me wants them to be together (even though at this point she seems like she doesn't want to) but part of me doesnt.
What I think you should do is, ask your friend what she feels about this guy. Ask her if she like, likes him or if they are just friends. If she says they are just friends, then ask things about him, and ask her if maybe she'll help you win him over. If you want your two friends to be together, well i dont know what to tell you about that, you cant force two people to have feelings for eachother. Thats just not the way the world works, hun. Also maybe ask other friends that know your tow friends, they might have better advice, because they know the people you are talking about =) Good luck and just to let you know, I know how you feel, dont stress, things will fall into place if they are meant to be!
Love
The Advice Columnist
PS- Coffee Snobs, when posting please sign as The Advice Columnist to keep the our identites a secret. We dont want people to not ask questions just cuz they who is answering.
i could use some advice. a good friend of mine is really good friends with a guy that's pretty much just a regular friend at this point, even though i kinda like him. i kinda feel like i can't really talk about it and it kinda makes part of me want to cry and part of me kinda mad and part of me wants them to be together (even though at this point she seems like she doesn't want to) but part of me doesnt.
What I think you should do is, ask your friend what she feels about this guy. Ask her if she like, likes him or if they are just friends. If she says they are just friends, then ask things about him, and ask her if maybe she'll help you win him over. If you want your two friends to be together, well i dont know what to tell you about that, you cant force two people to have feelings for eachother. Thats just not the way the world works, hun. Also maybe ask other friends that know your tow friends, they might have better advice, because they know the people you are talking about =) Good luck and just to let you know, I know how you feel, dont stress, things will fall into place if they are meant to be!
Love
The Advice Columnist
PS- Coffee Snobs, when posting please sign as The Advice Columnist to keep the our identites a secret. We dont want people to not ask questions just cuz they who is answering.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Advice #1
Hey!! This is in reply to someone's problem stating that they didn't like their friend's friends.
So, if you commented that comment, listen up. First of all, I think you should try to get to know your friend's friends. If you really are (used to be?) best friends, you should trust their judgement on friendships. If you already have done that, talk to your friend privately. If she tells you why she hangs out with these people, and you don't like her answer, you might want to hang out with some other friends. If you think she has good reasons for hanging out with her other friends, maybe you could see past what you don't like about them and start seeing what your friend sees in them. I know, the solution isn't ideal, but if you want to get this sorted out, this is what you have to do (unless you find another solution that I have totally looked past...) I hoped this helps!!!!!!
Luv,
Frappy
So, if you commented that comment, listen up. First of all, I think you should try to get to know your friend's friends. If you really are (used to be?) best friends, you should trust their judgement on friendships. If you already have done that, talk to your friend privately. If she tells you why she hangs out with these people, and you don't like her answer, you might want to hang out with some other friends. If you think she has good reasons for hanging out with her other friends, maybe you could see past what you don't like about them and start seeing what your friend sees in them. I know, the solution isn't ideal, but if you want to get this sorted out, this is what you have to do (unless you find another solution that I have totally looked past...) I hoped this helps!!!!!!
Luv,
Frappy
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